Foreplay for the Brain

Women are cerebral creatures while men are visual creatures. A woman’s biggest erogenous zone is the mind, while a man’s is, well, you knowâÂ?¦ Men do respond to mental stimulation though, especially if you add in other elements such as sights, sounds, tastes, scents and more. Teasing and foreplay can end up being just as enjoyable for men as for women you just have to get them to slow down and realize it. Unfortunately you might have to do all the work at first. Most men are more than happy to reciprocate once you are done though. They’ll realize they enjoyed it enough to make it happen again, even if they have to orchestrate it.

You can spark romantic feelings by sending love letters to one another or leaving enticing and tempting little notes around the house for each other. Get in the mood for romance and love by reading love stories, classic romances, or love poetry. You can even try your hand at writing your own love poems. If you prefer music you can create a compilation of your favorite love songs and give them to your special someone. With technology it is easy to find and download songs and burn your own CD. (If you are technologically inept you could have someone else do it. I had my teenage song make me a CD.)

By stimulating the brain you can get the body in the mood for love. Riddles, role playing, scavenger hunts, phone calls, reading, listening to or even writing sexual stories together, it’s all foreplay. Take advantage of all the things you could do to bring romance and passion into your life. Love and attraction start in the brain. Keep the brain interested and you’ll have a relationship that lasts.

Your imagination can take you to different realms and higher plains of sexual enjoyment. Foreplay comes in many forms. Many involve no physical contact. With a little planning and a lot of creativity, it is possible to lay out a plan that will leave your lover curious, enticed and excited all day long.

I decided I wanted to try something new to spice up my sex life. For a couple days I brainstormed trying to come up with a new way to sexually “play” with my husband. I wanted to do something exciting and different. I came up with a sexy scavenger hunt. I plotted for days, planning the moves and the right time. I wanted to have him start the day, knowing that something special was going to happen that evening, but have him wonder all day what exactly it was. I put things in motion that would have his imagination in overdrive all day long.

I planned the day carefully and made arrangements for the kids to stay with grandma for the night. I gathered all my goodies, props, note cards, colorful ink pens, glitter and a velvet drawstring bag. I practiced writing riddles and clues that were kind of cute and silly, a little sexy, and not so vague that he would never get the meaning. I hid clues and items around the house for him to find. I started off that morning by leaving him a note card decorated with some glitter and on it I wrote a riddle in red ink.

He called me several times that day trying to discover what I had planned. I spent the day plotting, planning and hiding things around the house. When he got home he was so excited he couldn’t wait to play. I gave him the velvet drawstring bag to collect goodies and sent him on his way with his first clue. I had him follow the clues and find sexy items I hid around the house. It was fun and very stimulating. After he found everything he joined me in the bedroom that I had decorated romantically with candles and flowers and me in sexy lingerie. It turned into a very passionate evening.

Since that evening we have done several variations of the scavenger hunt. Sometimes it is nothing more then a sexy shopping list one of us gives to the other to spark the imagination and wonder what is being planned. Sometimes it is more elaborate involving one of us to go to several places around town to find certain items and receive another clue at each stop. This can be difficult because you have to involve other people and rely on them to give your lover the clues. I found this works best at small shops and stores that are not very busy. My husband did this on Valentine’s Day one year. It led me to a booth at a romantic Italian restaurant where he was waiting for me with beautiful red roses and a card. Every woman there was jealous. One man who was there with his wife came up to my husband and jokingly said, “Man, why did you have to make the rest of us look bad?”

A lover’s scavenger hunt can be simple or elaborate, just always make sure it is fun. You don’t want to make it too difficult, unless your lover is the type that loves a challenge. Use your imagination and creativity and you can have foreplay that lasts all day long.