Guide to Surviving a Breakup for Women
It’s over. Probably two of the most horrible words you’ll ever have to hear and live through. Whether or not it was what you ultimately wanted, there are ways to cope with it in a mature, not-so falling apart manner.
First and foremost, tear are not your enemy. Sure we all feel like screaming at the top of our lungs and rolling around on the floor in agony. (Or maybe not.) However you decide to vent is up to you, but head a few warnings.
1) It’s okay to cry.
Crying is a natural and normal response to both positive and negative stimuli. It is probably going to happen and, when it does, try to remember that it is okay. You should never feel embarrassed by your natural instinctive way of coping with something that upsets you, such as a breakup. Fortunately for you, there are rules that protect both you and innocent bystanders. If you can help it, don’t cry in public. Making a scene is never a good thing. It may seem very difficult, but try to conduct yourself in a professional manner. Take some time away from everyone else and cuddle up to your favorite box of kleenex and cry it all out. Afterall, tears are quite cleansing.
2) Stay Away
You may want to track down the he-monster who just broke your heart and beg for forgiveness or rip his head off, but the best thing in all actuality to do, is to stay away. You need time to yourself to get your emotions under control and think the situation through. Many women make the mistake of falling just short of post-relationship stalking after a hurtful fallout. Keeping the distance will not only help you regain your self-worth, but it will show that loser just how much he misses the wonderful treasure he just tossed out.
3) Keep Busy
The best way to forget the empty space he left in your life, is by filling up your calendar. Think of it in a positive new light: now you have all the time in the world you want to go get that manicure you’ve been putting off! Keeping yourself busy is a great way to get your mind off of him and your aching heart. Go out for a movie with one of your girlfriends or throw a “night-in” bash for yourself and your clique!
4) Do a New You!
One of the most fabulous things to come out of a newly-ended relationship is a better you! Spend a day pampering yourself. Try out a day at the spa, get a massage or buy a new outfit that makes you feel sexy. You can always up your style by getting a new hairstyle or changing your hair color. You’ll be getting noticed by everyone and that is sure to help your bruised self-esteem.
5) View the split in a good light.
Maybe it wasn’t what you really wanted, but change is a good thing. Some women find that flying solo is just what they have been missing out of life.
Remember that you are a beautiful person. Just because he couldn’t see it doesn’t mean it isn’t true. We all have our faults, and whether or not the breakup was your fault or not, you are still very special. If the breakup was your fault, this is a great time for self-growth and examination. Learn more about yourself and learn how to be better in a relationship. If the split falls soley on his quirks, then this is a great time for you to be scouting out a new, better replacement! Who said breakups couldn’t be fun!
