Bridezillas on WE

Hands down, planning a wedding can be more stressful than planning for a child. While everything about having a baby is definitely dependent upon the baby itself, the birth date being one of them, a wedding day solely depends on the people responsible for the planning, and more so than not, it is the bride. She may have a do-it-all, French accented, right hand man posing as the wedding planner or a sister or best friend who said and I quote, “Anything you need, you just call on me”, but as most brides soon learn, there wedding details will be most important to them.

Every Sunday, I tune into “Bridezilla” on WE to see who will have a meltdown and why. Most of the time, they kind of thought it wouldn’t be this difficult for flowers, place cards, dresses and people to come together in perfect unison on their special day.

Above all advice from my unwedded hindsight, the outcome of your sanity will depend on how organized you are. Most women would say that they’re biggest concern is that they look great and frankly, a sagging bow or a bridesmaid’s disinterest is not a big to-do. However, I have seen a bridesmaid get cut from the cloth of the fabric of the wedding day, in one phone call to an already irritated bride.

Every little thing matters, as it should. The WE channel website offers advice on how to not become a Bridezilla as does many others. On the top of the list is keeping oneself in one piece. Knowing your strengths and weakness and how stress affects you as an individual could help.

Also it is just the way life works that pure, steady focus on the wedding day will not be granted. There are children to take care of; you still have to go to work because the wedding sometimes is not nearly paid for at most points, and other family gatherings and events to attend in the mean time. This can and will make you head explode. So in the midst of the chaos make sure you are eating a balanced diet, keeping fit and find ways to relax no matter what you do.

Then there is the team thing. Like I said before, you are the ultimate decision maker so you have to be at every appointment to see about everything. Or do you? If you are feeling overwhelmed, chances are, you are. Delegate. And this is not only a good idea for your sanity, but if anything goes wrong, well, you are not all the blame. There has to be someone that you can trust to handle something.

Let’s not rest on titles like “sister” or “mother” because they may love you to no end, but if they are a walking mess of a person, they can not help you, thus creating a mess that you ultimately have to clean up, probably the night before your wedding as legend has it. In the end, there is always the groom who can curse the process by seeing the dress (on you) but nothing has been said about him ordering flowers, picking up flower girl dresses or licking some envelopes.

Being the fantastic woman that you are, the object of your affection during the last days may be perfection but you may have to compromise and decide that some things are not worth the meltdown. Of all the four-letter “bad” words I have heard throughout this season of Bridezilla, most of them have been spewed at the wedding party, the poor defenseless bride’s mom and the groom, of course. Try and make a commitment to not ruffle the feathers of those who are trying to help. It is your day, ultimately but if there are no audience members, no parents, and no wedding party, it is no longer a wedding of your dreams.