How to Comfort Someone Who Had a Miscarriage
Suffering a miscarriage can be truly traumatising for a woman. If you know someone who recently suffered a loss, you should do whatever you can to comfort her. Depending on your closeness with the grieving mother, you may be able to help her cope with the grief through emotional and physical support. If you are not really sure about how you can help the grieving mother cope with the loss, do what you would expect others to do to comfort you in a time of grief. Keep in mind that there are a few things that you should and should not do while comforting a mother who just had a miscarriage.
Instructions
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Irrespective of how far along the mother was in her pregnancy, treat the miscarriage as a serious loss. Understand that the loss can and will most likely be extremely painful for the mother, which is why you cannot afford to treat it casually.
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Avoid using cliché’s such as “Whatever happened surely happened for the best” or “It is how God willed.” Even if the mother is a religious person, there is a strong chance that the last thing she would want to hear at such a time is that God wanted her to suffer the loss. If you really want to comfort her, use some other phrases like “I am there for you” or “Please take some rest.”
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Do not talk about the loss unless the mother starts talking on the topic herself. Listen as she talks about her loss and shares her sorrow with you. It is fine to say something like “I am sorry for your loss.” However, try to speak less so that she gets more time to talk.
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There are times when it is best to give the grieving mother privacy. After suffering such a huge loss, she may be struggling to come to terms with it. Give her some space and allow her to have some alone time. If the grieving mother does not want your physical or emotional presence around, respect her wishes and remain at a distance. She would definitely want you around once her wounds start to heal.
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Instead of just offering her soothing words, offer her practical comfort. Do the cooking for her and bring her food. If the grieving mother has a family that she has to look after, try to do whatever you possibly can for the family.
