Arranged Marriages
Having married my husband seven years ago in an arranged marriage, I can surely say that it has worked for me. I still get people who ask me regularly how I could marry someone I hardly knew. Well, the answer for me is easy. How long does it take before someone can claim that they know each other well enough to marry?
I think in my case, when I met my husband for the first time, we talked of lots of things. We shared our likes and dislikes, we spoke of our friends and what we expected from ourselves and each other in future and I found him really a nice & warm person. We not only had lots of common interests but wanted the same things out of life. The one thing he told me that I still remember is “Look, I don’t expect you to change yourself for me. I want you to be a part of my life in every aspect and I want to be a part of yours too. Sure, we will have our differences. After all we are two different people. But I want someone who could not only become my wife but become a part of me.” And that’s when I knew that I had found someone whom I wanted to marry.
We didn’t get married straightaway but got engaged the next month. We got married four months later. We never talked about any of the material things like what we were earning at the time or what we owened etc. All we talked about was what we could do in future together. It was almost as if I had found my partner, my missing other half. And afterwords I came to know that my husband thought so too. I must say that we have had our ups and downs over the years, as expected in every relationship but whatever it is we disagree about, it always boils down to the fact that we have a stronger bond that keeps us together.
It’s true that in western countries arranged marriages are known as rare but in other parts of the world they are still the normal way of finding your life partner through families. Not everyone falls in love and what better way to meet someone than have your family introduce you? You already know that your family approves of the person and his family.I think when you marry someone, you marry their family too and it is extremely important that you become a part of their family as then and only then you will truly become a part of your partner and everything that’s important to him.
It is not important whether it’s an arranged marriage or a love match. What matters is how much importance you give your relationship once it’s formed. So one would have to make their own mind up to decide whether arranged marriage is something they would like to go for or not. But if you do, make sure to give it your best and remember no one is perfect. Yes, marriages might be made in heaven but they have to be nurtured right here on earth.
