Being There for a Loved One in Time of Need
Death is a very strong and a dark word that many of us really don’t care to hear. Family members gather around offering all they can to support others. Many of us don’t want to be bothered by the fact that we are meant to be strong, supportive, and yet we don’t have time to worry about anything coming our way. We try to take what life gives to us, though, we don’t know how to handle the situation when it happens; nor do we want to.
I am here to tell you how to support that special someone during their time of need.
When family members are going through the transition period of death they tend to get moody because they are as scared you are. They worry that you won’t be taken care of, or that they are afraid of how you will handle it. Let your family member know that you will be OK no matter what is to happen in the near future. Don’t always try to be the strong one, let someone else do it for a change. Trying to be the strong one all the time only results in tragedy later on.
Be sure not to argue with your loved one, as they don’t always know what is going on or why they are doing it. Treat your loved one as if nothing is wrong with them. If they see you treating them differently, they tend to worry more. Enjoy the time you have with them now and take things day by day. Stress tends to tire them out quicker than normal.
Tell your loved one how much you love them everyday. This helps not only them but you at the same time. If helps you say what you need to say before time runs out, and lets them know that it is not their fault. Many loved ones feel as if they did something wrong for them to be dying. They need to know that they are still loved no matter what is happening.
Rest! This is a big one, make sure that you rest and your loved one is able to rest too. If you tire yourself out then you won’t be any help to the other person. Not resting tends to make you sick or unable to care for another. Loved ones need rest too so they can keep up their strength.
Find out all the information on your loved ones illness. It may help you understand more of what is wrong and how much longer you can spend with your loved one. You will also know an estimation of how much longer you have with them.
Fulfill last wishes. If you’re loved one has a wish of some sort try to fulfill it. If you are not able to then find something close to it. My mom made me promise to be there till the very end and I found it very hard but I did it. You will be surprised at what you can do as a last wish for someone you love. It may be something very small, but, remember it means something big for them.
Hi, my name is Diane Cheek; I have been through 4 relatives passing. This is not something you are able to handle in one day or even a year. Grieving takes time.
I have heard many people tell me to let my love ones be. Let them die in piece. You know that is not really the answer. I spent all my time with my loved ones as if it were the last day of earth and I still have regrets but not as I used to. I am grateful to be able to share my experiences with you and help you through your time of need. Don’t expect everything to go as planned and don’t push yourself too hard. You are a person like everyone else. You should let the loved one know that it is OK to go. I know it is hard and not the first thing on your list to say, but they need to hear it. I waited too long for my mom and she lived longer but, I knew she wanted to hear it from me and I was the only one left that hadn’t said it.
Do what you can and don’t blame yourself for anything. They now know you love them and you are there for them. They are not gone; they will forever be in your heart and soul. Loved ones need to know that you will be OK and you need to know that you will be OK. There is a brighter day, just around the corner.
