Best Mistake I Ever Made
High school was a wonderful time. I made great friends and had a lot of fun. I partied too much but never got into real trouble. All the while, I maintained honor roll standing. I am one of the lucky people who do not have to study in order to get decent grades. I am sure that if I had studied and put in the effort then I could have made the High Honor Roll. School was fine but I was more interested in being with my friends. I was accepted to all three of the schools I chose to apply to. Two were fairly prestigious and the third was a state school.
My family was all looking forward to me going to and graduating college since I would be the first to do so. My father and my grandmother on my mother’s side never even finished high school. Needless to say, it was a disappointment to everyone when I chose to forego my higher education to work awful retail jobs and make seven dollars an hour. I struggled to pay for my apartment and my parents had to bail me out on several occasions. I partied too much and got myself into a bad place mentally and physically. I was drinking and smoking and quite promiscuous. At one point, I was so desperate that I became suicidal. I look back and I am ashamed, but I also know that these things have brought me to where I am today.
After a year of living this way, I decided that college was where I needed to be. This was not the life I wanted for myself. I wanted to do something more and be someone better. I had the potential from the beginning but now I had the drive. Unfortunately, my parents were so disappointed in me that they decided not to pay for me to go. And so I was stuck. The laws in my state make it so that you must claim your parent’s income on financial aid if you are under the age of twenty-four and unmarried. So once again I was stuck.
How did this become the best mistake I ever made? This was actually the biggest mistake I ever made. During all this time, I met Michael, an amazing man only a couple of years older than me. In no way did he have his life together but he rarely drank, never smoked, did drugs, or slept around. He was attending a community college and living with his parents while working part time as a pizza delivery guy. We met though a mutual friend and because of the type of person I was at this time, we slept together the first night. I was lucky in the fact that he chose to come back and we became the best of friends. Eventually, my feelings turned into more. His did not. He wasn’t ready to be in a relationship and he didn’t find me attractive because I am heavy. The reason he slept with me at all is because I was easy. I was crushed, but I was unwilling to give him up as a friend. Then one day, something changed. He confessed that he loved me and that he had loved me for some time but he was scared. We were young.
Before long, I found a great job through a temp agency where I was making good money. I moved in with Mike and his parents for a while because the commute was so much shorter. Within months, we were engaged and purchasing a condo together. In a year, we were married.
Michael and I are perfect for each other. He has helped me to be a better person and helped me to feel better about myself. I have a different outlook on life. I look forward to every day and what it may bring. Over the years I have been dealing with some health issues, again both physically and mentally, and he has been there through it all. I have also been a positive influence on his life. Prior to our relationship, Mike was a certified geek. He kept to himself, was shy, and had little confidence in himself and his abilities. Since we have been together, I have praised him for everything he undertakes and supported him in everything he chooses to pursue. I constantly tell him hoe proud I am and how talented he is with his art and photography and computer skills. He has come out of his shell completely and he is a different man now.
Three years ago, I started college at the local state university. My chosen major was business. I left the workplace and pursued my studies full-time. I managed a 3.75 GPA. I was in a good place.
After that first year, Mike and I were able to buy our first house. Due to my illness, it was possible that I could have fertility issues. We weren’t ready for children yet but we needed to chart our efforts for when we needed to see a fertility specialist. The second month of trying, we became pregnant and I experienced an early miscarriage. The very next month we became pregnant again. Our daughter is now nineteen months old. She is the love of my life.
I have taken the last two years off from school to be with my daughter. The bond between Michael and I is unbreakable. We are as much in love as ever, possibly even more. We still look at each other for no reason, just to look. We hug and kiss constantly. We will drop what we are doing and slow dance just to be close. Our daughter, Hailey, is amazing. She is smart and beautiful. She was recently scouted by a modeling agency and we are trying to decide whether or not to pursue it. We are just very proud to have her. Every morning she will wake up smiling and I walk into her room and she gives me a kiss. As I write this, she is hanging onto my arm and swooping in for kiss after kiss.
I have plans to finish my education beginning this fall. I will be doing an online program though a local accredited university. This way I can still be here for my family and possible pursue a career for my daughter in modeling, all while taking classes. I am enrolling in the five-year Master’s program in Accounting.
I have come a long way in the last seven years. Choosing not to go to college was definitely a mistake but it turned out to be the best mistake I ever made.
My family was all looking forward to me going to and graduating college since I would be the first to do so. My father and my grandmother on my mother’s side never even finished high school. Needless to say, it was a disappointment to everyone when I chose to forego my higher education to work awful retail jobs and make seven dollars an hour. I struggled to pay for my apartment and my parents had to bail me out on several occasions. I partied too much and got myself into a bad place mentally and physically. I was drinking and smoking and quite promiscuous. At one point, I was so desperate that I became suicidal. I look back and I am ashamed, but I also know that these things have brought me to where I am today.
After a year of living this way, I decided that college was where I needed to be. This was not the life I wanted for myself. I wanted to do something more and be someone better. I had the potential from the beginning but now I had the drive. Unfortunately, my parents were so disappointed in me that they decided not to pay for me to go. And so I was stuck. The laws in my state make it so that you must claim your parent’s income on financial aid if you are under the age of twenty-four and unmarried. So once again I was stuck.
How did this become the best mistake I ever made? This was actually the biggest mistake I ever made. During all this time, I met Michael, an amazing man only a couple of years older than me. In no way did he have his life together but he rarely drank, never smoked, did drugs, or slept around. He was attending a community college and living with his parents while working part time as a pizza delivery guy. We met though a mutual friend and because of the type of person I was at this time, we slept together the first night. I was lucky in the fact that he chose to come back and we became the best of friends. Eventually, my feelings turned into more. His did not. He wasn’t ready to be in a relationship and he didn’t find me attractive because I am heavy. The reason he slept with me at all is because I was easy. I was crushed, but I was unwilling to give him up as a friend. Then one day, something changed. He confessed that he loved me and that he had loved me for some time but he was scared. We were young.
Before long, I found a great job through a temp agency where I was making good money. I moved in with Mike and his parents for a while because the commute was so much shorter. Within months, we were engaged and purchasing a condo together. In a year, we were married.
Michael and I are perfect for each other. He has helped me to be a better person and helped me to feel better about myself. I have a different outlook on life. I look forward to every day and what it may bring. Over the years I have been dealing with some health issues, again both physically and mentally, and he has been there through it all. I have also been a positive influence on his life. Prior to our relationship, Mike was a certified geek. He kept to himself, was shy, and had little confidence in himself and his abilities. Since we have been together, I have praised him for everything he undertakes and supported him in everything he chooses to pursue. I constantly tell him hoe proud I am and how talented he is with his art and photography and computer skills. He has come out of his shell completely and he is a different man now.
Three years ago, I started college at the local state university. My chosen major was business. I left the workplace and pursued my studies full-time. I managed a 3.75 GPA. I was in a good place.
After that first year, Mike and I were able to buy our first house. Due to my illness, it was possible that I could have fertility issues. We weren’t ready for children yet but we needed to chart our efforts for when we needed to see a fertility specialist. The second month of trying, we became pregnant and I experienced an early miscarriage. The very next month we became pregnant again. Our daughter is now nineteen months old. She is the love of my life.
I have taken the last two years off from school to be with my daughter. The bond between Michael and I is unbreakable. We are as much in love as ever, possibly even more. We still look at each other for no reason, just to look. We hug and kiss constantly. We will drop what we are doing and slow dance just to be close. Our daughter, Hailey, is amazing. She is smart and beautiful. She was recently scouted by a modeling agency and we are trying to decide whether or not to pursue it. We are just very proud to have her. Every morning she will wake up smiling and I walk into her room and she gives me a kiss. As I write this, she is hanging onto my arm and swooping in for kiss after kiss.
I have plans to finish my education beginning this fall. I will be doing an online program though a local accredited university. This way I can still be here for my family and possible pursue a career for my daughter in modeling, all while taking classes. I am enrolling in the five-year Master’s program in Accounting.
I have come a long way in the last seven years. Choosing not to go to college was definitely a mistake but it turned out to be the best mistake I ever made.
