Could Your Dating Style Be Pre-Determined by Nature?

It has been said the all men are trying to do when they enter into a relationship is get into a woman’s pants. This is largely true. It starts off with parents who do not give proper moral guidance to their young boys about girls and as a result have no idea how to control themselves around girls. They end up dating based on attraction and then the relationship fails and ends. It is likely some fooling around has happened between the guy and the girl and this makes the break up difficult for both parties involved. Eventually men simply learn to be conquerors or predators. They let their hormones lead them. They learn how to manipulate girls in ways that are favorable to them attaining the conquest.

Sometimes men are not trying to do this but they still follow the same date and break up cycle and instead of “conquests” these men have a string of broken hearts behind them.

In both cases it is because they do not know how to relate to women properly and they have not had proper moral training. This creates a vicious cycle that is dragged out and perpetuated into adult life.

What needs to happen for relationships to function properly is for men to stop following the old and evil patterns handed down to them and to find a new way to relate to women.

The center of the example at the beginning of this article is selfishness. Men need to adopt an approach that is centered around “the other.” This is difficult to do because there is so much static in the air on how to handle it.

If you are reading this and are currently single�

Reflect on your life and evaluate the failed relationships. Assess what you might have done to cause the relationship to fail. Be honest. You aren’t going to get anywhere if you lie to yourself. Consider what you could have done differently and what about you can be changed so that when you date again you’ll be ready. I say this so you can gather principles that are particular to yourself.

Next, evaluate where you are in life. If you are relatively young (18-25) you probably have a bit of growing up to do. You need to ask yourself these hard questions which will be stated in the following paragraphs.

Am I adequately equipped to meet the needs of a woman? What a woman needs is a man who knows himself, is strong and is sensitive to her feelings and is very patient. If you do not know yourself, if you are week willed and generally insensitive, then you need to get out of the dating game now and don’t even think of going back into it until you have refined yourself. A good way to assess this is to ask an older woman such as your mother or mother figure in your life about how you are as a person. She’ll be able to tell you if you have these properties.

Another thing you need to ask is do you know yourself? This is a bit ambiguous and is highly subjective. Do you know what you want in life? How do you react to certain situations? By and large in our fast paced society people do not know themselves and as a result this vicious cycle is perpetuated. We do not take time to know this need to know information. Also, if you do not know these things, get out of the dating game and stay out of it until you know yourself and what you want in life.

Another question you need to ask is “can I afford to marry?” Whether or not you are at this stage in your life, it is never early to consider your obligations and capabilities. The point of a relationship with a woman should be to marry her and make children. If you cannot afford to marry financially, you need to push toward that point where you can. That may involve completing a degree or that can involve getting a better or second job to stabilize your financial situation. This question implies that you have a budget. If you don’t, you need to be actively managing your money.

These are just a few things for singles to think about when addressing this issue. You must make yourself desirable. The final thing is, none of this can be an act. You have to be desirable. You must develop your character so you can handle the rigors of life. .

If you aren’t ready and you are young, do not worry about it. You have time, you need to take the time to prepare yourself for life. You attract what you are not what you want. You need to become what you want to attract into your life. Be hard working and determined. You might suffer defeat, but failure you will not fail and there is a difference.