Dating an Older Man
Ã?· When dating an older man, keep in mind that you must have something to talk about. This means you may both have interests that are completely different. He may not know all the current songs that are popular or where the trendiest clubs are. He may not have a clue about what things you did in your childhood that took place in the 80’s. His childhood may have been 20 years before yours. This means, you must find something that you two have in common if you want to have a real connection with the older man. Try asking him what he likes to do, what he does during his free time. Find something, even if it is just a book you both read an enjoyed, and expand on that. Finding things in common with older men can be challenging, but in order to successfully date an older man, you must look for the commonality thread.
Ã?· If you are set on dating an older man, remember that people may talk. You need to prepare yourself by putting on a thick skin and a catty-remark shield that will bounce off any negative comments. People may call you a gold-digger hoping to just cash in on your man’s big bucks. He may be called a “sugar daddy” if he lavishes you with gifts and you readily accept them. What is important is to let these comment slide, especially if you aren’t dating the older man for any of those reasons. If you are dating an older man for those reasons; perhaps you need to rethink it.
�· If you are interested in dating an older man but are nervous about it, why not talk to him about your concerns. You may find out that he has the same concerns as you do about the age difference. This may be beneficial to any impending relationship between the two of you. If you air any concerns that you start to have, he may also be impressed with your maturity, even if there is a significant age difference. This may add to the attraction factor!
Ã?· When dating an older man it is essential to keep in mind that while you may have some pretty major differences, and that trying to find a common thread between the two of you was like pulling teeth, your differences should be embraced. Honestly, you most likely aren’t going to find a ton in common with an older man, especially a much older man, so why not embrace your differences and run with them? There are going to be many times when you will not have the experience with something that your date has. Instead of pouting about it or complaining, listen to your date; let him show you a thing or two. Make it a learning experience for you! This can also be reversed. Your date should be open to things that make you different than him. He should be able to learn a thing or two from you also.
Is it possible to date an older man and sustain a serious and compatible relationship? You bet! There are many love matches made between much older men and younger women. It can happen. Women often look for older and wiser men to connect with, just make sure you are dating an older man because you are truly interested in him as a person and nothing else.
