Get a Date Online
So, you’re interested and want to get started? First, you need a profile. You should have at least one picture of yourself, but preferably more. You should be smiling, alone, and in focus. Be creative, as well as honest, with your profile.
All done? Now the fun part begins. You can search for your potential date with your criteria in mind and easy to enter. Typical criteria consists of age, location, goals in life, job, etc. This is a great way to avoid a good looking guy who lives with his mother and doesn’t have a job. With online dating, you are free to be more choosy and not accept a date with the first guy who asks you out. Many of us feel flattered to be flirted with or asked out in real life, only to go on a date with someone who ends up being completely wrong for you. Internet dating is really more about convenience and criteria than chemical attraction.
Are you looking for Mr. Right? It can happen online, believe it or not. It happened for my then sixty-one year old mother and it can happen for you. Since my father died in 1989, my mother dated. She had four young children and never got any offers. I took it for granted that my mother never introduced a boyfriend to me for years. She didn’t seem to have the slightest interest, but that wasn’t entirely true. She was lonely. For ten years, she was a widow, raising her four kids and trying to keep up with the bills.
My mother never looked for that “someone special”, oddly enough. One day, she sat down on her computer and got an email from a man named ‘Ed’, who had seen her profile on America Online. He said he was 71 years old, a widower, with grown kids. He noticed her profile said she liked dogs and had a Golden Retriever and an English Springer Spaniel, and went on to describe his dogs…and what he did before retirement, and what kind of man he considered himself to be.
My mom was interested, and very flattered, that this man had asked if she would go on a date with him. Being cautious, she emailed back and forth with him awhile before accepting a date with him. She told him that she would meet him at a restaurant, not mentioning that her daughter (my sister) worked as a waitress there and that she would be their server. Yeah, my mom is sneaky, isn’t she?
How did the date go? Well, they went on that first date, and then another, and another. ‘Ed’ is actually short like her. He’s a cute little old man who is nothing like my father, but has been making my mother happy for the last 5 years. They recently celebrated their anniversary. He never tried to replace my father and it was nice to see my mother more “fiesty” and happy. When I talk to my daughter, my deceased father is known as ‘Grandpa’ and my mother’s boyfriend is referred to as ‘Grandpa Eddie’. Neither my mother or myself expected her to find a date, a new love, or someone who has been wholeheartedly accepted and thought of as part of the family.
Not looking for Mr. Forever just yet? Consider ‘Volume Dating’. What is volume dating? Pretty much like it sounds. If you are a serial dater, or just want to test the waters with many guys (or gals), the Internet is a limitless resource. Set up and accept as many dates as you want. Always meet dates in safe, populated areas. Not everyone tells the truth on the Internet. Honestly, dating can be very fun and you just might meet that special someone along the way, so get out there and start clicking!
