Girls Get a Bad Rap for a Good Reason
First and foremost, relationships should be respected. If a man is dating another woman, other women should go on about their business and find a man who is single. Trying to tempt, tease, or seduce another woman’s man is completely immoral and trashy to say the least! I wish I could say to put yourself in their shoes, but the women of which I speak lack the intelligence for that kind of open-mindness. To women who have no respect for other people’s relationships, men are just pawns in a game for power.
I cannot put all the blame on the woman though. Men truly do ask for trouble by engaging in inappropriate conversations with women who are not their wives or girlfriends. Simple chatting leads to simple flirting which may lead to other things that will ultimately harm the relationship. It is not decent for a man to continue to stay in contact with an ex-girlfriend. It is neither necessary or looked upon in good taste. When a man enters a new relationship, he should have already cut any previous ties with the women which he was previously involved with. Checking up on your old girlfriend by checking her myspace profile or sending her text messages or having chat conversations with her while you are away are not responsible behaviors for a man who is truly ready for a new relationship. In a woman’s eyes, you are still interested in another piece of ass.
It is completely unacceptable for old girlfriends to continually attempt to contact a man when he has engaged in a new relationship. Not only does it look completely desperate, but it is very disrespectful to the new girlfriend. If he wanted to be with you, he’d still be with you. He’s happier now, so shove off!
It never ceases to amaze me how disgusting some women are when it comes to other women. I have gotten to the point where I just shake my head and laugh it off. Women that persistently pine away for old boyfriends or ex-husbands are purely in need of some professional help. If you are wondering why the new girlfriend does not like you, you might question your own behaviors and advances, they are likely to be inappropriate.
Luckily, there are ways to learn how to avoid such situations. If your ex has a new girlfriend, grow yourself some self-esteem and move on. Realize why the relationship didn’t work in the first place and grow from it. Ruining his new happy relationship isn’t going to guarantee you another run with him, and even if it did, your chances of being happier the second time more than likely aren’t in your favor. He’ll end up resenting you for tempting him to leave his new girlfriend.
Minimize the contact that you and your ex engage in. If you do still talk, don’t reminisce about the times that you were together, this may make you wish that you were still together. It is always easy to see the good parts of the relationship when all the bad parts are gone. Don’t make yourself a social whore for his myspace friends list. Keeping your face out of his daily view will benefit him and his new relationship and keep his new girlfriend from wondering just why in the heck he keeps you around. Try to be a better person. Getting out and finding someone who really is good for you is the best way to put your ex behind you. Being a stumbling drunk who spends the weekends in the bar is not only going to make you look like a good loss to have cut, but will prevent you from finding anyone who wants to put up with that kind of girlfriend to begin with.
I have always firmly believed that true love comes to those who wait, not to those who try to steal it from others. Besides, if he’ll leave her for you, he’ll leave you for someone else. And if you cannot respect someone else’s relationship, how in the world will you ever be emotionally sound enough to appreciate your own? In the end, men enjoy playing with these “bad girls”, but they always give the good girls a ring.
