Herbs and Things to Increase a Woman’s Sex Drive
Anyone can lose their interest in sex and there can be many causes that contribute to loss of desire. These include but are not limited to illness, injuries, stress, medications and alcohol. It’s always a good idea to determine if your loss of desire is related to prescription or over-the-counter medications. Your doctor will be able to tell you if a low sex drive is a possible side effect.
Before we get into the discussion of herbal treatments we should discuss other alternatives that may be more pleasurable to try before resorting to potions and tonics.
Men tend to more aroused by visual stimulation whereas women are more aroused by emotional stimulation. You can combine the two so that both of you get a little of what you need by using certain types of clothing or by watching erotic videos that have some type of plot to them.
Massage is another great stimulant that works well on both men and women. There are many different books that you can purchase to learn massage techniques for increased arousal. It should be mentioned that people tend to give a massage the way they wish to receive one. Men generally like more pressure when being massaged and women tend to like more of a feathery touch. You should discuss this when you first begin massage techniques so you can both enjoy the process. Men often claim that women don’t rub hard enough while women claim that men rub too hard so take this into consideration before you begin. It can also be sexually stimulating to “talk” about this during the massage. Many people are turned on by verbal gestures and this would be a good way to incorporate that into your foreplay session.
Another great tip for increasing sexual arousal is to not have sex. How can not having sex stimulate your sex drive? It’s simple; just decide that you will have a night of foreplay and no sex. You’d be surprised how hard it is to stick to the no sex rule. If you happen to break the rule all is not lost because you will have great sex. If you manage to hold to the no sex rule it will increase your desire waiting for the next time.
If none of this sounds fun or interesting, there are several herbs you can try that have a reputation as sex stimulants.
Chinese angelica (Angelica sinensis). The Chinese call this herb dang-quai and claim that it does for women what ginseng does for men. You can add three to six teaspoons to a pint of boiling water and drink up to three cups of this a day. It is not suggested that you take this if you are pregnant.
Ginseng (Panax). Ginseng can be used by both men and women and has proven to be one of the top herbs as a sexual stimulant.
Quebracho (Aspidosperma quebracho-blanco). This herb contains yohimbine which is the active compound in the herb yohimbe. In women, the biochemicals in these herbs help the clitoris to become engorged causing sexual arousal.
They should not be used if you have high blood pressure. Do not continue to use this herb if you have side effects such as dizziness.
Yohimbe (Pausinystalia yohimbe). This herb has been used by men to improve their erections and the FDA has actually approved pharmaceuticals containing yohimbe. It does have some possible side effects such as elevating blood pressure. If this is a problem for you then you may want to take the plant compound yohimbine instead.
Atlanta sex therapist Roger Libby, Ph.D. suggests that yohimbe is also a good stimulant for women by increasing blood flow to the clitoris as it does to the penis in men.
Anise (Pimpinella anisum). Anise contains anethole which is a compound similar to estrogen. In older times people used it for increasing their milk secretion while breast feeding, promoting the menstrual cycle, facilitating childbirth and for a woman’s sex drive.
Plant estrogens or phytoestrogens such as these enhance a person’s lust for life and could enhance sexual lust as well.
Chocolate (Theobroma cacao). Now you can have your chocolate and eat it too. Chocolate boosts the body’s levels of serotonin and endorphins which help relieve pain and boost your mood. Some people even believe that chocolate will mimic the effects of marijuana in the brain.
Next time you want a romantic evening try chocolate instead of strawberries, or chocolate covered strawberries for a special treat.
Cola (Cola nitida). Cola contains the stimulants theobromine, kolanin and caffeine. Cola has been used in Jamaica as an aphrodisiac for many years.
Essential oils such as jasmine, rose, or clary can be used as massage oils when mixed with vegetable oil. It’s a well-known fact that scents and massage are both sexually stimulating and the two together would only enhance each other.
