How to Cope when the Wedding is Over
Most of the time you hear the romantic tales of the two living happily ever after. But real life is a lot different from the fairy tales that you hear growing up. After the wedding day comes the daily routine of life. There will be days that are good and of course their will be days that are bad. It will require a lot of adjustments for both the husband and the wife. Keep in mind that this is a big change in your life, and it is possible that you expectations were a little high when you were engaged and you may feel a little disappointed. Whether or not you have a successful marriage depend on how willing you are to adjust.
It may be difficult at first but their are several things that you must do to ensure that your marriage is a success. First you need to be flexible. Because of too much pride some people find it difficult to do this. Try to avoid being to stubborn, because this can lead you to disaster. If you truly love each other you should be willing to make adjustments to help keep the peace in your marriage. Another thing that you will want to do is not expect your spouse to be perfect at everything.
This would include expecting them to look perfect 100% of the time. For example if your wife comes home from a hard day of work and now has to care for the house you can not expect her to look glamorous twenty four hours a day. The same goes for husbands they can not look like a hunk all the time. You have to understand that they do not have the time or the energy to do all the things that they did before you were married. Remember it will take a joint effort.
You also need to realize that it is ok for you to disagree. There is no law that says you have to agree on everything. You are two different people with different opinions and viewpoints. You will have disagreements, but the majority of them will be trivial. Try hard to listen to each other and take the viewpoint of your spouse into consideration, before getting upset or just disagreeing. Give yourself time to think if you are discussing a touchy subject. This will help you to avoid getting upset. Keep cool and try your best to hold back words that would upset your spouse.
Try to cater to the needs of your spouse, this goes for both the wife and the husband. Arguments usually begin to occur when both realize that the honeymoon is over, and you begin to discover things about each other that you never realized before. For example your mate may eat in a way that annoys you. This is something you may never have realized when you were dating, but now you can see that it drives you nuts. Remember you still have to get to know each other, and the first few years are always the most difficult. Just try to adapt to each other and remember why you married him or her in the first place.
