How to Have Assurance in Your Relationship
We often have conversations with people we befriend or associates who deal with ethics: right and wrong or good and evil. People often categorize themselves with good or evil based on their belief system and the circumstances at that moment. Each person, depending on their belief system, has the ability to rationalize his or her actions or reactions based on the way they view the world at a specific time. Hence we have the moving target of right and wrong, good and evil and what is ethical. This is why it is necessary to have immutable laws, laws given by God, to give humans the truth to think and live by. I thought about how this affects us in our relationships and I discovered that God’s laws affect humans by giving us assurance of what is right and wrong and His Holy Spirit leads and guides us into righteousness and truth. However, it is up to us to receive what God has for us. We, as individuals, can choose to ignore Gods influence in our life. Those of us, who seek peace and love with others, would be well served to pay close attention to what God’s laws have taught us through the writings in the Bible and specifically the words of Jesus Christ. Because it is Gods laws that give us assurance in our relationships.
What You Need
The definition of “Assurance” is: Inspires confidence; guarantee or pledge; Free from doubt; Self Confidence; Presumption.
We all need to understand the simple examples that God gives us in regards to establishing and maintaining relationships via Bible illustration in the old and New Testament teachings. We must keep in mind that there are many types of relationships: working relationships, dating relationships, husband and wife relationships, church relationships, spiritual relationships, lustful relationships, love relationships, etc.
The Bible talks about all types of relationships and we need to understand what these relationships are for. For instance, God established the Church (we are the Church collectively; each person whom the Holy Spirit dwells in is part of the church. Some get this confused with the church building) to be his bride because he loves each and everyone person, whether or not, if they love Him. God is a jealous God. This is why he sent his Son, the bridegroom, Jesus Christ, to die on the cross for the sins of the world.
Only through reading and studying the Bible, particularly the words of Jesus, will you get a full understanding of what you need from God. 2 Timothy Chapter 2 verse 15 says: “15”: Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth. This becomes the assurance we have for our relationships.
When You Need It
Now that we know that God’s word gives us instruction and assurance in relationships, it is just as important that we understand God’s word, we need to know when we need to use it. God’s word is not something that you read and intellectualize. God’s word is truth and life. We need Gods word all of the time, in every situation, in every relationship, in every trial or tribulation, in every celebration and every occasion. John chapter 1, verse 17 states: “17”: For the law was given by Moses, but grace and truth came by Jesus Christ. God’s words are for every situation in our lives, all of the time. This assurance gives us the confidence we need to respond and act like Jesus Christ in every relationship that we have.
Why You Need It
We humans have a tendency get into relationships and rationalize what’s right and wrong, good and evil based on how we feel at the moment, we need God’s word to help us find our way back to the truth. Have you ever noticed anyone who does something bad to someone and then tells him or her that they love them? Makes you wonder doesn’t it? To do what is good, is synonymous with having love. 1 Peter Chapter 3 talks about the way people should act toward each other.
“8”: Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:
“9”: Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.
“10”: For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile:
“11”: Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it.
As you can imagine, if we could take inventory of our own life, day by day, minute by minute, I dare say, daily each of us has fallen short of what Peter was saying. This is why you need Gods word and his holy spirit
Colossians Chapter 2 verse 2 speaks of getting assurance of understanding and the knowledge of God and Jesus Christ. “2”: That their hearts might be comforted, being knit together in love, and unto all riches of the full assurance of understanding, to the acknowledgement of the mystery of God, and of the Father, and of Christ.
To have assurance is to have wisdom and understanding that goes beyond trusting in the things that you can get from someone or give to someone. To have assurance you must get the mind of Jesus Christ to do the things of God. This is what gives us the faith to receive those things which we cannot see and believe with confidence that what God has for us, no one can take away.
Faith Is Necessary To Have Assurance
We need to have faith to believe in God and faith comes by reading and hearing the word of God. Romans Chapter 10 verse 17 states,
“17”: So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.
After we hear God’s word through the Bible, we must read it for ourselves to be able to meditate on it and allow the spirit of God to minister to our spirit. Through the Holy Spirit we can gain assurance in God.
Conclusion
To have assurance in your relationship, learn about what Jesus Christ says about relationships and follow Him.
