How to Make Effective Small Talk

Small talk is often defined as meaningless and empty chatter. It is often used by people with nothing else to say, and when delivered in this obvious way, is (surprise) meaningless. However, you can use your verbal and communication skills to create effective small talk, particularly in situations where awkward spaces and big gaps may be leading to a conversation breakdown! Try these seven tips and techniques in preparation, and launch yourself towards small talk success!

1. Read
You’ll learn the most about a diverse range of subjects by staying up to date on articles of interest and current events. Read magazines, internet posts, blogs, and other media materials during your free time to keep you well informed without being overinformed about anything in particular.

2. Practice in the mirror
It’s helpful to deliver a message or handle a situation when you’ve done it before; practicing in front of the mirror isn’t just for actors! Your self-confidence will be natural when you already know you look good when talking about even the most random subject.

3. Attend low-key social gatherings
It’s easy to meet complete strangers and practice your small talk techniques when you don’t have too much pressure. Attend social functions and other community events where it’s safe to talk to people you don’t know (yet!)

4. Learn about interesting topics
Whether it’s Goethe, the history of the Macy’s Day Parade, or your childhood toy collection, learn some specific and interesting facts that you can bring up in a typical ‘Did you know that. . .?” situation. Do remember not to be offensive as you should always be sensitive to your audience!

5. Learn to listen
When you can listen and accurately gauge your audience or partner in the conversation, you will naturally ask better and focused questions. Learn to relax and listen, and you’ll have natural sources of information to expand upon.

6. Increase your self-confidence
If you need to take a public speaking course to overcome shyness, practice in front of family and friends, or just get out and socialize more, doit! Your sefl-confidence will rise and dramatically increase your chances of small talk success.

7. Take notes
Stake out a journal, notebook, or even blog to jot down and note thoughts, ideas, and other interesting findings once in a while. This will help keep your material fresh, current, and may even open doors to your creative talents. Try jotting down good quotes, inspirational stories, or funny jokes that you remember.

With the tips above, you’ll be well-equipped to learn the art of effective small talk. Just remember to be yourself, listen and learn from the people and environment around you, and think of engaging topics or noteworthy interests in your downtime. Small talk eventually can lead to ‘long talk’ (i.e. a full-fledged conversation), and can be a great ice breaker, motivator, and relationship generator!