Practical Tips on Raising Your Grandchildren
A grandparent raising her grandchild has a huge responsibility. It can be overwhelming considering starting over and raising another generation of children. On the other hand, children benefit greatly by being raised by extended family members when the parents are unable to do so.
Though you may have just finished raising your own kids, the gift you will give your grandchildren far outweigh the sacrifices you will make.
Here are some tips on raising your grandchildren and creating a balanced, healthy lifestyle:
Do what is best for the children at all times. There may be times you have to give up things you want to do and times you wish you were able to peacefully enjoy your retirement, but keeping your eye on the big picture should help you realize the importance of your role to the children.
Be a child advocate. If you don’t know what is in their best interest, do some research and find out. Teachers, librarians and other parents are great resources for activities to do with your grandchildren, about the needs of children and their developmental stages.
Retain family Ties. Even if the children’s parents can’t be involved in the their lives, make it a priority for the children to visit and know other extended family members. Create family traditions and give them a sense of belonging.
Be in their corner. Stand up for them and their needs. Often times you’ll be the only one who does take an active interest in your grandchildren. Be passionate and persistent to get things done.
Be open. Honesty is the best policy. Share as much as you can with your grandchildren about their situation. It will save more heartache down the road.
Be consistent. Set clear rules and stick to them. Give them structure. They will learn to follow the rules and will find comfort in a structured environment.
Get involved. Be there for the grandchildren when they enter school and after-school activities. Attend events whenever you can to show your love and support.
Make connections. Contact other parents and neighbors to rally support, make play dates and to have someone to share your frustrations with. Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it.
Don’t spoil them. Provide the needs of the child, but be careful not to overdo it to compensate for the absentee parents.
Make time for yourself. Like any caretaker, if you take care of yourself you will be better equipped to take care of the kids. Take time out to do the things you enjoy.
Consider the huge, positive impact you’ll have on a child’s life. There is no one better suited to love and care for a child than their grandparents.
