Ten Ways to Fail as a Conscious Creator: Understanding the Law of Attraction
1 – Don’t Believe You Can Achieve it.
This is by far the most subversive saboteur of all. Not believing is the subtle, lethal destroyer of our dreams. Many conscious creators will claim loudly, “But, I DO believe and it still isn’t happening!” If you do not manifest what you want, rest assured that you do not believe you can achieve it on some level. This shows up as attachment. When we don’t believe we can have what we want, we feel attached (afraid, sad, resentful, angry etc.)
Deny it all you want. However, if what you want does not manifest there are only two reasons (and they are intimately entangled to such a degree that they cannot be undone without awareness.) The first and foremost is on some level you do not and have not accepted your unlimited potential; you do not believe you deserve it and you believe (no matter how embedded and hidden the belief) that what you want is not possible for you. This belief is some semblance of a core limiting belief such as: I’m not good enough; nothing ever works out for me; people like me don’t get things like that, I’m not intelligent enough, I’m not worthy, etc.
The other reason for not getting what you say you want is because you have another desire that simply outweighs the one that’s not manifesting. The Universe is answering your strongest point of attraction at all times and you are not taking that into account.
For example, you want more prosperity and therefore you attempt to manifest more clients. However, simultaneously you want more time freedom to spend with your family. Somewhere within you, you believe that if you have more clients you’ll have less time with your family. If your positive desire for family time is stronger than your desire for more clients, family time will win and you will be unable to attract more clients. The solution must be to break the limiting belief and be inspired to manifest a solution to having both, more prosperity and more time freedom.
2 – Dig Up the Seeds to See if They Are Growing.
Would you plant tulips on Monday and dig up the dirt to see if they are sprouting on Tuesday and then again on Wednesday, and again on Thursday, and so on?
No. However, that’s exactly what we do with the Law of Attraction: plant a seed on Monday and by Tuesday you’re digging it up! We give the Universe our list of what we want in a mate. Show up to the single’s event and say, “Okay. where is he/she?” You look around and immediately feel disappointed that no one here appears to be a match to anything on your order form!
This sends out a ray of doubt and negativity that then makes your harvest that much farther away. Instead, choose to be patient and trust, trust, trust in the Divine Timing.
3 – Ignore Your Negative Emotions and Doubts.
This one is tricky because ignoring your negative emotions and doubts is better than cementing them into reality by sharing them with others without release. However, if you have doubts that you ignore and sweep under the carpet then you are still sabotaging your dreams.
A negative emotion is your signal from the Universe that you do not believe and you are attached. Ignoring the thought/emotion is like swallowing a teaspoon of pine sol. It won’t kill your dream immediately but the end result is going to be more likely to be a pale, wilted version of your ideal manifestation.
What you want to manifest will never be as easy, smooth, magical and fulfilling as when you address and eliminate your doubts.
4 – Dismiss the Small Steps and the Signs of Land as Meaningless.
Attempting to manifest a new car? Did you dismiss the email that had a picture of your car as nothing?
Attempting to manifest a promotion? Did you feel angry when your supervisor insinuated that your work needed improvement?
Attempting to manifest a mate? Did you ignore the smile from that handsome/beautiful stranger on the elevator because they were too tall, too short, not likely to be attracted to you, etc.?
With every manifestation, you will SEE and experience “signs of land”. A sign of land is the evidence that you are indeed on the right pathway to manifest what you want. Some signs of land appear as ‘driftwood’ and other signs appear as beautiful flora and fauna.
Every sign of land is a message from your angels. When you get the negative feedback from your boss, it may be driftwood, but it’s an important message that you are NOT aligned with that promotion. You must change something if you are to get that raise from within the company that you are currently employed. It’s not something to be upset about but a sign that you have ‘work’ to do. Very important information, if you are to navigate consciously to the promotion (or dream) you really want.
Recognizing and appreciating the driftwood allows you to then choose how to re-direct your ship. If you feel negative about your sign of land, then it’s your inner beings way of telling you that you are heading for unfriendly waters. You want to change your intentions and attention or suffer a shipwreck on savage land.
When you share a smile with a stranger, it’s a beautiful bird, sign of land. It doesn’t matter whether or not they are the ONE, it only matters that you recognize that your mate is on their way (or here now) because the signs are all around you!
Recognizing and appreciating the flora and fauna allows you to become even more magnetically attractive to your desires. Gratitude is a powerful attractor. Use it to nurture and care for your dreams by giving thanks for every sign of land.
5 – Commit Half-heartedly to Your Law of Attraction Exercises.
Do you do your law of attraction exercises half-heartedly? Do you make a list of what you want only occasionally or have you created a treasure map (collage) that you seldom look at?
Do you get excited about attracting something (for an hour) then your excitement wanes and your exercises peter off into minimal or no effort whatsoever?
Do you write down your top 6 goals for life everyday or do you just hope your subconscious mind remembers what you want for life and guides you every day anyway?
The Law of Attraction is so simple and easy to apply, that most of us take it for granted. We half-heartedly throw out a desire into the air once or twice a day or week, and wonder why what we want isn’t happening.
If you’re manifesting butterflies or hummingbirds, it is just that easy. throw it into the air with a little bit of gratitude and it will appear.
However, if you want to manifest your status as a millionaire but you’re currently living off of credit cards, then a few off the cuff affirmations without ongoing commitment, attention, and inspired action will NOT be enough to create millionaire prosperity.
You must be willing to do the work required to overcome your current limiting beliefs while simultaneously putting forth enough energetic intention to have the Universe respond with like energy.
Write your top 6 goals, every day. Write your list of what you intend to attract, daily. Write down what limiting beliefs keep you from success and EFT them or surrender them.
6 – Resign Yourself to Not Having What You Want instead of Detaching and SurRendering to the Divine Order.
One of the most difficult concepts of conscious creation is learning how to use the law of detachment. As students, we know it is absolutely critical to detach. We know this so we make bold attempts to “let it go.” We force our mouths to say, “I’m okay if I don’t get this.” Inside, however, we feel anxious and disconnected from those words; or occasionally instead of detaching, we give up which leaves us feeling deflated, discouraged, depressed and hopeless.
We want to detach but a part of us is afraid that if we let it go, it won’t happen. A client recently realized that she didn’t want to accept herself exactly as she was; she didn’t want to accept that she was already beautiful. She didn’t want to let go of the belief that she was ‘ fat and ugly’ because she was afraid that if she accepted and loved herself now, she’d become complacent and lazy and not do anything to improve herself. Instead of loving what is and detaching, she was rejecting her reality (and herself) and thus, repelling the very beauty that she was working so hard to fulfill.
Many law of attraction students refuse to trust in the big Universe and therefore detachment is simply never going to be the powerful trim-tab that it could be in their intentional creation briefcase. However, refusing to detach is better than giving up.
There are three options: One, you are detached and allowing your good. Two, you are attached and resisting your good. Three, you are resigned and no longer attracting your good.
I always know when a client has ‘ given up’ instead of surrendered to the Divine Order and Divine Timing. The swing in their step is gone and their eyes show the sadness that is in their hearts.
Resignation is not detachment! An unsuccessful attempt at applying the law of detachment always feels negative while successful detachment feels confident, certain, and like a peace-filled poncho of hopeful anticipation.
Let me draw some distinctions. You will FEEL the truth as to whether or not you are detached and allowing your desire, attached and repelling it or resigned and no longer attracting it.
Resigned and No Longer Attracting:
Attached and Repelling:
Detached and Allowing:
-resigned
-apathetic
– sad
– hopeless
– doubtful
– anxious
– lackadaisical
– disappointed
– disillusioned
– anxious
– fearful
– angry
– impatient
– resentful
– hesitant
– distrustful
– insecure
– abandoned
– connected
– energetic
– cheerful
– hopeful
– certain
– eager
– inspired to action
– satisfied
– starry-eyed
Detach and allow; trust and let go but never give up!
7 – Focus on the Pie in the Sky ALL the time and Ignore the Meatloaf in Front of You.
If you want to fall down a lot, try to run before you’ve learned to walk. If you want to stumble terribly, put the cart before the horse. If you want to make a fool of yourself, run for President before you’ve ever served a day in any lesser office.
If you are focused on attracting a million dollars – GREAT! You can absolutely manifest this type of wealth. I’m not ever going to suggest that you not shoot for the stars. In fact, I encourage you to imagine yourself living in lavish prosperity.
However, if you currently live hand to mouth, then it’s very likely that your everyday experience will prevent you from leaping that Grand Canyon in a single bound.
In addition to visualizing ultimate success, visualize what you need right now. It’s important to take your ‘ three-foot’ tosses as seriously as your ‘ grand leaps.’
Accept where you are as perfect and be willing to manifest incrementally. Soon, you’ll be able to manifest bigger and bigger dreams because you’ve built your confidence and your imagination will let in the truth that you are an abundant being.
Imagine an athlete that’s unwilling to compete winning the Olympics! Now, imagine a conscious creator who’s unwilling to work, suddenly becoming the CEO of a fortune 100.
Visualize and attract both.the optimal success AND the current needs.
8 – Re-tell Your Story to Anyone that Will Listen.
Refuse to Give up Your Past and Deny its Perfection.
Great storytellers always gather crowds. We love a delicious ‘ overcoming the odds’ story of triumph; we find juicy gossip irresistible and have a sincere desire to connect with others who have traveled similar paths.
If you’re going to re-tell your story over and over again, then you will want to be aware of your negative emotions as you recount your past. If you can tell your story for the sake of enjoyment, learning, and fun then go ahead, be a storyteller.
However, if you tell “your story” to elicit sympathy or fury from yourself of your audience, then know you are in a cycle of re-living and re-creating more of the same.
Your past is perfect – claim this as you tell your story and your creations will continue to be delicious.
9 – Do it Alone. Don’t find Like-Minded, Successful Creators to Play With.
Why do we want to be lone rangers? Why must we insist on overcoming the odds all by ourselves?
By surrounding ourselves with successful people of like minds, we draw into our experience the energy of belief, success, prosperity, joy and freedom.
Success is not defined by obtaining everything you want but by enjoying and appreciating everything you have while patiently persisting in the pursuit of everything you want.
When you choose to play with others who are joyful, for example, you invite more joy into your life. Make a decision to reach out and learn from other law of attraction students; join law of attraction discussion groups; take classes or hire a coach.
If you want to quicken your path towards fulfillment, reach out and selectively surround yourself with those who are already doing it! Almost by default, you will begin to become what you’ve surrounded yourself by. be it negative or positive.
10 – Be a Lazy Creator.
I am amazed at how often I get an email or a call from a fellow law of attraction student that wants to prove the law of attraction works by sitting on the couch.
In other words, they want to attract what they want without having to do anything physically to get up and achieve and receive it.
Is it possible to have your ideal mate knock on your door? Sure, it has happened. ladies have married their milk man.
However, that’s just crazy, risky and lazy! Don’t wait for your lottery to hit, get out there and make it happen. In addition to using the power of your mind to intentionally create what you want, take at least ONE action every day towards your goals.
Don’t wait for success; go claim it with whatever ‘hard’ work you have to for now. When you become aware that you are working ‘harder’ than you’d like then create it easier.
Persistent visualization along with persistent and consistent inspired action will bring forth incredible manifestations and success.
