The Art of Persuasion and the Power it Has
There are some basic character traits ones must have in order to be able to persuade someone effectively. In order to be able to cde someone you must be confident but not appear to be cocky. You must be able to talk without thinking but not appear to be thinking about what you are saying. You need to come off as charming and innocent but not as a sly ladies man. If you have these skills and traits you will have a much better chance of not making a fool of your self when trying to get what you want.
When it comes to persuasion there are many forms and just as many different instances in which to use them. In order to be successful at persuading someone you need to be able to asses the situation and choose the proper type of persuasion for the occasion. Once you start to master this skill you will become better at getting what you want.
Getting people to do what you want isn’t easy, it’s an art. Just like any other sport or job you will get better with time and practice. You aren’t always going to be able to pull off what you want but just remember that practice makes perfect.
How to be straightforward
This tactic can be one of the easiest ways to persuade someone as long as you do your homework. This technique works well with educated people who react to logical arguments. The only draw back to this way of doing things is that it re quire more background work on your part. The people who you can use this technique on are generally more educated and will not fall for your basic guilt trip, which we will talk about later.
You are going to need to do a bit of research to be able to pull off this technique. You need to sit down and have the actual conversation with your self. Think about what you would say if someone was approaching you with this persuasion. What would you ask or say? Once have done this think about answers for the questions you would ask. You want to have a logical answer to any question the person may throw at you. You need to sound confident and like you know what you are talking about. If you do this right there is a good chance you can pull off whatever it is you are trying to accomplish.
How to lay on the charm
This is almost something you have to have naturally. It can be taught but would require much more skill. You need a smile that can brighten the room and be able to carry your self so that women and men both want to be in your company. A mans man, the alpha male, a prince charming; these are the personality traits you are trying to pull off when trying to lay on the charm.
If you do have a natural air of charm about you then this persuasive action should be easy for you. People want to be reassured, they want to be told what to do, and they want answers. If you can project your self as a natural leader with all the answers people are going to want to help you with no questions asked.
Now if you are about as popular as a piece of wood then you pretty much have no reason to try this technique. Unless you can lay on the charm in a proficient manner you will probably make a fool of your self and make things harder for you in the long run.
How to use the guilt trip
It’s probably impossible that you have never been the subject of a guilt trip. Your parents have used it, coaches use it, teachers use it, and your own girlfriend definitely has used it. That said and done, why should you feel guilty using it on them?
A guilt trip can be very effective in certain circumstance but less in others. For example, you are more likely to guilt trip someone in the bedroom versus trying to guilt trip a co worker in the office. A guilt trip works best when the person you are trying to persuade knows they should be doing something but don’t want to or if they know they shouldn’t be doing something but they want to do it anyways.
A good example of this is you come home from working all day and it’s your turn to make dinner. Your watching the game and really don’t feel like getting up and spending the time to make dinner. Your wife is surfing the internet for some new clothes. She is blatantly full of more energy than your self and has no real reason to not get up and cook dinner.
What you do is start by saying something along the lines of, “If you only knew what happened at work today.” A nice roll of the eyes or a deep breath of exhaustion is a nice touch as well. You basically want it to seem like you deserve to be helped and that your wife should feel bad if she makes you fix dinner.
Again, being persuasive is about knowing when to use which technique. The guilt trip method can work well when used correctly. If you try to use this technique at work or in other certain situations it will be pointless and not work at all.
How to make it about the team
A great way to persuade coworkers is to make it about the team. When people feel like they are worker for the greater good or that there is some type of benefit for them in the end they are willing to go the extra mile to see that it happens. What this really is though is a modified version of peer pressure.
There are two angels to work this for of persuasion. One is to make the person feel like they are holding up the success of the team and let them know how disappointed you are. This also working in the guilt trip for some added bonus. The second option is to let the person know how important they are to the team and how things wouldn’t get done if it weren’t for them.
The first choice can be harsh and should only be used as a last resort or if the opportunity arises in which it can be easily used. You will find that the second method works much better and that people respond to positive feed back much better.
How to use greed
People are greedy, its just human nature. If you convince a person of what’s in it for them in a particular business deal, purchase, or any other type of situation you will quickly see that the need for personal gain is a great angel of persuasion. Use this angel correctly and you will se just how easy it can work.
Keep in mind though that in this day in age people have become very skeptical. They are especially of any kind of deal that may sound too good to be true. If they think this they will end up asking more questions. And you don’t want this.
Tell them how it is but be excited. Keep your claims and offers to something unattainable but that could be within reach. Bring the person into the picture and tell them in black and white how it will work out for them and exactly what they will get. Don’t leave any room for them to wonder or doubt things.
Don’t go overboard but make sure they have confidence in you. You know what you’re talking about. This is a great deal for everyone involved.
