The Dangers of Prenuptial Agreements!
If both the husband and wife are ideal for each other, and they agree to the mutual needs of safeguarding against financial loss, then the prenup becomes a source of peace of mind to benefit both parties. And this was especially true in circumstances where there is children’s property from the previous marriage, or where one had inherited assets with conditions that would be affected by a divorce. In such special circumstances, a legal contract spelling out this (third party protection) is the right thing to do.
However, due to the high divorce rate, many people have lost their ability to trust. Many have lost confidence in their ability to create a strong and lasting love relationship. Many people are now focusing on protecting their wealth, on the suspicious assumption that their fianc�©(e) could be a gold digger. Many do not believe that their relationships will last the test of time. Many assume that their fianc�©(e) is out to get them, and all these negative beliefs and false assumptions are truly fueling marital failure. Yes, a prenup protects the money, but it also programs the mind for failure. Here below are some of the dangers:-
The study found that the party with fewer assets was always left wondering on which of the two agreements held more value. Was it the trial commitment (prenup) or a total commitment (marital vows)? On one hand you have jointly become one in the spirit of family, but on the other hand you do not want to be a party to your spouse’s liabilities or problems, and s/he is not taking your 401k, your home, your assets, or your heart if s/he wants to quit anytime in the future. During this study, one prenup user who quit the relationship asked these questions: “How confident would you feel in a marriage where you are not trusted? How would you feel if your spouse thought you were a gold digger waiting to quit in the future? How joyful would you be in such a ‘love’ relationship?”
They had contradicting needs and expectations from their marriage; one wanted true love, and the other wanted to protect their assets from their spouse. And later, when the husband suggested that they should get a baby, the wife asked him, “So how much will you pay me for carrying your child?” Sounds fair enough? Are these selfish motives? Commercialized family spirit? You be the judge.
Simply focusing on protecting yourself against financial loss, is now becoming a source of breakdown to many marriages. There is a better way of managing marital risks, than transferring all the risks to the spouse with fewer assets. Your interest should be to protect not only your money, but the core of the family and this includes full protection of your heart, your family, your legacy, and especially your family’s peace of mind. And today, you have a simplified and lasting solution to this challenge.
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