Tips for Dealing with Abandonment Issues
I am not a licensed mental health professional. This article is just advice to help family members and friends deal with someone who has abandonment issues. Abandonment issues is something that is difficult to deal with. It is most difficult for someone who has abandonment issues and also stressful on the family members of a person that has abandonment issues.
A person who has abandonment issues has a very difficult time with people. It is difficult for them to believe what people say because of someone in the past that was lying to them and never coming back. They get worried that people are going to walk out the door and never come back since it has happened to them before. It is hard for them to trust other people. They often think that people do lie to them all the time because it is has happened before. Someone with abandonment issues does question about everyone even those close to them due to everything that they have been through.
How can you help someone to overcome abandonment issues? Make sure to have quite a bit of patience with the individual. Let them know that you aren’t a liar. Promise the person that you aren’t going to send them away. Tell the individual that you are never going to leave them. It takes time for someone with abandonment issues to trust people cause of everything that they have been through. The individual needs to go see a mental health professional to help them work through the issues.
They need know that people will follow through with what they say. They need to know that people around them are going to always come back and never leave them. They need to know that people love them. They need to feel loved. It is difficult for them to believe everything that people say because most everyone has lied to them. It is difficult for some friends and family members to understand. The person may have problems in a romance relationship or keeping friends cause of being paranoid most of the time about people cause of what has happened in the past. They often want to have control of situations due to other people just leaving and never coming back.
They need something to make them feel secure and know that people will come back. Individuals with abandonment issues have been emotional abused by people and also deceived by other people. Every situation is different that people have been through. During childhood some people were abandoned by one of their parents. Perhaps a parent said that they would come back to pick up the child, but the parent never come back. Another one is a parent will lie to a child and send them somewhere and never come back or rarely see them. Abandonment also happens in romance relationships sometimes a partner will just move out one day when you are at work without leaving a note or without telling you first.
When someone abandons another individual then it is basically giving the individual false hope even though the person had no intention of ever coming back. It is very heart breaking for someone when people lie to them and then never come back. I would like to say that abandonment is probably one of the most painful things for someone to go through.
