Waiting Until Marriage: Alternatives to Sex

It’s rare, but it still happens: waiting until marriage. There are still people in this world who hold sex to a higher plain and wish to wait until after their wedding to consummate. This is a beautiful thing, and certainly heightens desire, but how difficult is it to wait until marriage? And what can a couple do to make the wait easier on them both?

Obviously, the amount of sexual tension will depend on how long the couple will have to wait, and how sexually oriented they are in personality. Some people can’t go two days without sex, while others find different ways to express themselves physically. Whatever the case, two people who love each other will want to be intimate, but there are ways to keep yourselves occupied until the big day.

1. Be Active Together

Go to the zoo, the park, a baseball game or the water park. Visit friends, family and the movies together. Sitting around in an empty house with only sex to think about will weaken your resolve. Instead, get out of the house and enjoy one another in public. This will take the emphasis off of sex and intimacy until you get married.

2. Make Plans

There is nothing more time-consuming than planning for your wedding, so sit around at the kitchen table and plan different aspects of marriage. The flowers, the rings, the guest list, the dress, the church, the reception, and yes, the Honeymoon Suite can all be planned as you wait to have sex. It will give you something to look forward to.

3. Express Love in Different Ways

One of the main reasons why couples wait until marriage for sex is because they want to emphasize other things that make a marriage strong. Love, devotion, loyalty, compassion and personality traits are all just as important as sex, so make them a big deal. Spend time every day to be alone and to cuddle with one another, perhaps talking about what you love about your relationship. This will ensure that your commitment to one another is strong, and that you aren’t all-consumed about sexual thoughts.

4. Kiss

Some people feel more closely tied to another through a kiss than even through a more sexual act. Unless your religion or belief structure prohibits it, take time every day to kiss and cuddle together. If you have any restraint at all, this shouldn’t lead to sex, but will allow you to forge an intimate bond even before your wedding day.

5. Stand by Your Decision

Your friends might think you’re crazy for waiting until marriage to have sex, but don’t listen to them. If possible, stay away from conversations about sex, or from anything that might lead you to weaken your resolve. Once you’ve made a decision like this, you should stick by it, no matter what might happen. Imagine how sweet it will be when you finally get to have sex after your marriage has been solidified.