When Falling in Love Feels like Heaven
When it feels like heaven, is it really?
When we initially meet someone who absolutely makes us feel light on our feet and puts extra energy in our veins by rushing blood through parts of your body and brain which have been left dormant for a while it causes our body to be excited. It feels different in a GREAT kind of way, like heaven possibly would make us feel. This excitement can cause our brain to release what is called “endorphins” which explode in the brain at just the thought of that special someone, or seeing them, or talking with them, or spending time with them. The endorphins give us a feeling of peace. It really is a natural chemical produced in the brain and it has a marked affinity for opiate receptors. An opiate is a chemical, a type of drug, made from Opium, a plant, and is something that induces rest or inaction or quiets uneasiness. Our brain can produces endorphins, which causes other chemicals to be produced in our brain, opiates, which have the effect of making us feel relaxed and at peace. This is what you are really feeling when you initially meet that special someone. It is all in your head. However, it is manifested in your entire body.
I wondered, “Why did God make us this way?” Through many studies and personal experiences that we all have either been through or seen first hand in our families and friends, we know that being on drugs long term is not good for us. Yet, God allowed us to have this mechanism to be on a natural high, all of the time! Wow. I think this is deep, so I decided to study it a little more and look at it from a biblical and human perspective.
When do we feel this incredible, heaven like, change in our mind and body?
The first thing I wanted to understand was does this incredible heaven like feeling happen to us on other occasions, other than when we meet someone we want to fall in love with? I checked it out and found out that we actually don’t feel this specific feeling at any other time. There are things that come close, like when you or someone you love is in danger, you will have this feeling of peace and strength to do whatever it takes to save yourself or your loved one. It is not the same as that feeling of being in love though.
What does the Bible have to say about it?
Was it Gods plan for us to have this sort of incredible heaven like feeling? I came across a few scriptures in the Bible that led me to believe that God intended for us to have this incredible heavenly feeling. Proverbs chapter 18 verse 22: “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.” Wow! Right off the top, the LORD gives favor to a man who finds a woman and makes her his wife. The Bible calls it “a good thing”.
It gets even better folks. I John, chapter 4 verse 16: “And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him.” Double Wow!! God is love and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God and God in him. This topic became more than a notion to me at this point. Now I am putting 1 + 1 together to get 2. Could it be that the heaven like feeling that is induced in our brain and manifested in our body when we are in love with someone is a Godly response to his plan being carried out in our human lives? It’s just a question. Let me know what your answer is? As I continued reading I John chapter 4 verse 18: “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.” “There is no fear in love” I immediately reconcile this quote with the opiate feeling of peace and strength. It makes me realize that God has given us everything we need and more to be all we can be. To the extent that our brain and body work together to complete our mission toward Godliness by letting us know physically when someone is compatible with us. “He that feareth is not made perfect in love.” Compatibility is something that is subjective, but only you know for sure, you have to take into account all of the circumstance. Think about it, why is it that when you fall in love with someone, you have no fear of anything? You are ready to take on the world, as long as you have your sweet heart by your side.
I believe it is Gods plan for men and women to become a perfect union. The love is essential, but God knew that there had to be something else, something to give the man and the woman the drive they needed to sustain a God loving relationship. He gave the ability for humans to fall in love as a plan to show us how we must be able to love God and follow his commandments. Read Ephesians chapter 1 verses 3 – 6:
“3”: Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who hath blessed us with all spiritual blessings in heavenly places in Christ:
“4”: According as he hath chosen us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before him in love:
“5”: Having predestinated us unto the adoption of children by Jesus Christ to himself, according to the good pleasure of his will,
“6”: To the praise of the glory of his grace, wherein he hath made us accepted in the beloved. Wow! wow! wow! Being holy and being in love are the things that GOD wants for us as human beings.
Is being in love enough?
As I concluded my research on this heaven like feeling, I discovered that even with the mental and physical tools that are God given, people need more than just that heaven like feeling to stay in love.
The key to staying in love is being able to accept the truth about who you are and get to know all about the person you are in love with in a constructive way. You have to know who you are in order to share you with someone else.
Ephesians chapter 4 verses 1 – 4:
“1”: I therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you that ye walk worthy of the vocation wherewith ye are called,
“2”: With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love;
“3”: Endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.
“4”: There is one body, and one Spirit, even as ye are called in one hope of your calling;
Here the Apostle Paul is telling us how we should behave with each other in love. This is a crucial element to being able to stay in love. Paul also elucidates on how we strive to be in the one spirit of our calling. If a man is called to be a husband and a woman is called to be a wife, then they should continually be endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. There it goes again y’all, that word “peace” going back to how you felt when you first met that special person you fell in love with in the context of this article.
I believe what tends to happen with us is this: We fall in love and then time goes by and we need to get more and more endorphins to sustain the level of heaven that we want to be at. Something like a crack addict wanting to get higher and higher, but realizing that they need to smoke more and more crack to get to that high they were at before. What happens is we get use to it. Our body is regulated. Too much of anything is not good for us. The Bible says in Philippians chapter 4 verse “5”: Let your moderation be known unto all men. The Lord is at hand. Our body has a built in mechanism to regulate how much heaven we can feel at one time. When we go pass that threshold, we usually have dire consequences, if not death.
We have to have balance as human beings. We are not God! We are trying to be Godly though and to that end we need Jesus Christ. At the core of a good relationship or marriage is a true belief in God and his awesome power to do everything and anything. Believe that. Ephesians chapter 3 verse 17: says “17”: That he would grant you, according to the riches of his glory, to be strengthened with might by his Spirit in the inner man; “17”: That Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that ye, being rooted and grounded in love.
We need Jesus in our life to get to GOD and GOD only deals with the inner man, what is in our deepest heart. The core of it all is to know the love of Christ. Remember, Christ died for us! That is the sort of love you need to have always for the person you are in love with.
It’s not heaven, but it’s heaven like
In conclusion, I found out a lot and I wanted to share it with all of you. The Heaven like feeling is GOD given to help us know when we are in love with someone. I hope you understand the heavenly feeling you get when you meet someone is GOD given and not to be wasted on just anybody, literally! Remember, “The Lord is at hand.” Remember, too much of anything is not good for us humans. We need a balance that is centered on Jesus Christ and his advocacy with GOD for us.
