Writing Your Wedding Vows

Wedding vows are a central part of any wedding ceremony for the witness of intent that they provide to the assembled congregation of friends and relatives and for the revelation of dedication they provide for the couple themselves. Today most faiths permit, even encourage , the bride and the groom to either choose their own wedding vows from a collection of possibilities or , perhaps more dramatically, to write their own wedding vows. Well intentioned couples sometimes jump at
the chance to write their own wedding vows only to discover themselves struggling to find just the right words or sentiments to share. Sometimes, for some people, thinking about the vows you hope to write thematically helps to organize and make understandable the many emotions swirling in your heart and mind and meanwhile gives courage to timid pens.

Vows for the Giving of Your Whole Self

Today I am yours fully, completely, totally. Every part of my being I pledge forever to you.
With my eyes I promise to look forward to the bright promise of our future without ever losing sight of the joys of the present.
With my ears I promise to listen with patience, compassion and love to your cares, concerns , hopes and fears.
With my mouth I promise to speak with kindness or hold back from speaking at all rather than cause you pain.
With my mind I promise to dream of good times during bad and hold the thought of our love ever foremost.
With my hands I commit both to building our future and holding on tightly to our happiness.
With my feet I promise to walk courageously and joyfully wherever our path may wind.
With my heart I promise to love you as you wish to be loved, as you need to be loved .
Today I am yours fully, completely, totally as I will be tomorrow and forever.

Vows Over a Lifetime

I promise you today my honest effort to devote every waking hour to the happiness, peace and well being of our life together.
In our youth, I promise to share my energy, enthusiasm and love as we work together to build the foundation for a lifetime of happiness.

As our marriage grows and faces challenges, we can only now imagine, I promise to share both the joy of our little triumphs and to view the rest as success still in the making.

When age begins to show in the graying of our hair and the wrinkle here and there, I promise to smile at the mountain of memories shared and the richer memories still to be made.

And on each of the days God gives us together, however many they may be, I promise to give thanks in my heart for this day and this moment which have made all my dreams a precious reality.

Being All Things for You

I pledge to you today to be the spouse you want and need me to be, a person of caring, kindness and love. But I want to be more so…

I pledge to you today to also be the friend you want and need me to be, someone who listens to you, challenges you and forgives you. But I want to be more so…

I pledge to you today to also be the true lover you want and need me to be, a person of abiding loyalty, unequaled passion and unfailing affection. But I want to be more so…

I pledge to you today to do all that I can to please you and to show you my love and especially I promise to always want to do and to be more – for you.

My Love in Every Season

The love I promise to you today is meant to last forever not for minutes or hours or weeks but for all the many seasons of the many years we will share together.

I promise that in the coldest days of winter, you will find warmth and comfort because I’ll be there.

I promise that amidst the cloudbursts of spring showers you will find shelter and protection because I will be there.

I promise that on the most parched day of a summer heat wave you will feel refreshed and alive because I will be there.

I promise that when the chill and melancholy of autumn arrives you’ ll hardly notice because I will be there

Whatever else fills the seasons of our life together, one thing I can and I do promise. Just like today, I will be there and I will still be loving you.

Organizing your vows, your promises to your spouse, around a central theme is a highly personal matter. The central theme for each person will be entirely unique and depend upon their own personality, their special relationship and the things that are important to them when they think of a a lifetime of marriage. The way you organize your vows might be around an idea similar to the ones above but vows might also be delivered around the organizing thought of sailing -I promise to steer a steady course of love and affection; or holidays – I promise to make our lives a continuous valentine; or geographic locations –
For you I will be a mountain of strength. Choose your theme carefully and connect it to your own reality and you will find the rest flows more easily than you might imagine. Making promises to each other is important. When you take on the task of writing your own wedding vows you have already begun to fulfill the most important promise you can make to one another. You have agreed to try.