How To Be A Classy Lady

Instructions

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  Respect
  
  The saying that one ought to treat people the same way you want to be treated should be implied in this state. This is by addressing people in how you talk to them, approach them and respond to them. Basically ask yourself, how do I want to be talked to, approached or responded to? When you’ve answered that question, implement it towards others.
  
  This is one of the attributes of knowing a classy person, they are respective from the little to the elderly. There is no struggle for power or sign of attitude, whether they are the older or the younger. This people exude respect wherever they go and are respected in return.
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  Mind your business
  
  It is highly needful for you to follow this rule. This is about you minding your business, it saves you from embarrassment, humiliation, trouble as well as other things and helps retain your respect. You don’t want to be identified as a nosy, fussy or always in your business person. Simply turn your face and look forward. If you are in an office that uses earphone, use it and focus on your work.
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  Avoid cursing
  
  Occasionally some people let out outrage by offering the universe a not so pleasing choice of words. In aiming for classy here, your job is to avoid using offensive words at all times. There are other ways for you to unleash anger, not at that very moment, simply rise up, go somewhere that no one can see you or the loo and cry, lament, groan etc. whatever form of way to calm down and come out looking like calm. It is inappropriate to be seen, or heard using such words.
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  Be Sensitive
  
  This is not in the area of wearing your emotions on your sleeve for every little thing someone does to you. It is also suited in the area where you are not deemed insensitive or downright rude to what you might have said or done that you didn’t know you hurt or gave grief to an individual. It is important to know when you said or done something that hurt an individual unintentionally and quickly apologize to the person and make amends.
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  Humor
  
  They have a sense of humor and can laugh at anything including themselves. Not in a loud, brash way but a genuine and civilized manner. They are not proud to laugh, as some people feel when others see them laughing, they are giving their power or class away, wrong. It is more about having a sense of humor, and being yourself.
  
   
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  Clothing
  
  It is important as a classy individual to have a decent fashion sense. This implies dressing appropriately at all times for every occasions. Nothing to tight, but should fit and cover appropriate places. It is very inappropriate as a classy lady to have parts of your body in the nude.
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  Confidence
  
  Queens don’t run, or are in a haste or clumsy. They glide, walking majestically as a horse will trot raising each foot and placing it in front of the other. Glide gracefully and softly, at ease with your own body. Walking with your back straight and your chin high. People should turn when you walk that way. Watch videos to show you how to walk and practice. Watching movies of medieval eras and seeing how the royals conduct themselves would be helpful.
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  Create an ambiance about your person
  
  
  Another factor that people overlook is the eye factor. There is a certain way one has to look that matches the way they walk or stand (which is standing with your back straight and tall) and that is with a piercing gaze. Your aim here is to portray a look that indicates powerful and strong as well as kind. This is done by using your eyes to give attention to what is necessary.
  
  As a classy individual, you cannot be seen looking around like someone confused, you are to act certain at all times and your eyes movement should indicate such. This is done by focus your eyes on one thing and looking at it for a couple of seconds then turning your gaze slowly to something else. Even when talking to someone, look at them in the eyes, occasionally blink and look away and repeat. This is also shows that you are giving the person or object due attention, that you are present, as your eye seen wandering will show disinterest and to some as being rude. Everything about you should be calculated and controlled. This is an art of being poised in classy.
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  Positivism
  
  This is achieved by you alone. In order to be classy one ought to believe that they are capable of doing great things. This will project on the outside as whatever you think of what yourself on the inside is who you are on the outside. Engage in activities that you are good in and be confident in it, and as you master those activities move on to the things you don’t know and learn more about it and grow your confidence.
  
  It is important to be self-aware of what you are made of and what you are capable of doing, read and invest in yourself with skills (any kind of skill) will be helpful to you and will help you grow. Classy people are confident, they know they possess attitude and mannerism and skills that a lot of people ignore, this makes them look, act and feel better than the average and it shows in how they work, with grace and efficiency. One look at them and you know they know what they are doing. Could that be you?
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  Talk slowly with a presence
  
  This is a rule that is mostly ignored, especially a generation that is hasty and see it as cool to talk fast, when one is seen talking slow they are deemed as a slow person which can be irritating when one doesn’t know how to communicating quickly and effectively. In the world talking fast is essential business.
  
  Nobody wants to waste time hearing the details they need to hear. So how does one talk slow and fast at the same time to match the situation? They talk with a presence. This is done by making your voice loud (not lousy disturbing) and calm, speaking with a commanding but respective tone, a voice that says I won’t talk fast, but I would talk loud and clearly so you would understand each detail. This would bring the listener to be calm if they were in a haste to grasp all you have to say, the tone in your voice will indicate one of control and calm that it will be impossible for one to respond rudely in a way or form. Your speech or tone would be one people would want to listen to as time goes on.
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  Smile
  
  Classy people smile. Some people go on to have pout like face with frowns or with noses in the air, that’s a sign of being haughty and proud. As one aiming to be classy, you ought to smile when smiling calls for it. If you don’t want to be seen smiling all the time, a nod of acknowledgement and a kind face that almost breaks into a smile is good enough. Use a mirror to practice and watch tutorials on YouTube and other available sites to show more.
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  Be mature
  
  For one aiming to be classy, it is important to keep all childish acts away and focus on being mature in speech and comportment. One that is seen loitering around, talking too loud or simply being all over the place is not deemed classy. It has to be with one comporting themselves at all times, in manner of relation to other people.
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  Be educated
  
  One does not need to attain a PHD in order for them to be seen as classy (but if you can get one, do so). It is important to educate one’s self on what is happening around them, so in discussion they are not clueless. It shows that one is interested in the happening around the society and people lives depend on it. It shows you are one that people don’t underestimate as being classy is not about wearing makeup, flashy clothes and accessories but what is inside your head and heart.
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  Being classy entails a lot of things as one ought to learn table and body manners, how to carry themselves like they have not a worry in the world but with a humble attitude. In looking and acting the part. It can only be done by practice and educating one’s self on the reforms that will cause an effective change on an individual. All the best.
  
  Thank you for reading.