How to Deal With Hurt Feelings
We regularly come across people who hurt our feelings, be it intentionally or unintentionally. Harbouring these feelings can leave you scarred emotionally and also strip you of inner peace. It is therefore best to deal with these feelings as soon as you can so that you can be at peace with yourself and move on.
Instructions
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Control your emotions and remain calm. It may prove to be really difficult, but understand the importance of giving yourself time to cool off completely.
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Hold your tongue until you are sure that you have your emotions in control. You do not want to retaliate by lashing out with words that you may regret utter later on. The consequences of speaking those words may also turn out to be something that would add to your worries.
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Make sure that you understand the words and intentions of the other person completely before you respond. It is common to presume what the other person may have intended and getting offended over it. Do not let your mind pass the judgement in a hurry. Think about what the other person said and analyse it. Also try to figure out whether the other person hurt your feelings deliberately, or it was just unintentional.
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If you sense your anger rising, walk away from the situation. Taking revenge or retaliating with harsh words will serve no fruitful purpose and will only serve to aggravate the situation.
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It is best to let the other person know that they have hurt you feelings by their word, actions or behaviour. Expressing the concern will make you feel lighter and will also help you and the other person to resolve the issue in a civilized manner. Speak politely and choose your words carefully so that you do not end up offending the other person.
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Try to understand why the other person has spoken, acted or behaved in a manner that offended you. Put yourself in that person’s shoes and ask yourself if you would have done the same. Connecting to the person’s mind will make it easier for you to forgive and forget.
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No matter how badly your feeling may have gotten hurt, do not indulge in self-pity. Doing so will only serve to make you feel more hurt and depressed.
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Overcome oversensitivity and become tough from the inside. This is something that will come handy throughout your life.
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Pray to God, asking for inner peace and strength to forgive those who have hurt you.
