How to Divorce Peacefully

Instructions

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  maintain reasonable communication
  
  
  If you feel that things simply didn’t work out, it is important to keep some sort of verbal communication. Indulging too much or too less could make matters worse. It is better to give some room for discussion in order to clear out certain misunderstandings.
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  Taking help from support group
  
  It is important that you seek help from a support group in order to control your emotions. Your community will have one for those couples who are enduring a tough relationship. Joining them will allow you to look at other aspects, while sharing your feelings. The mutual bond will keep your anger and hate in check.
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  Retain your family lawyer or agree on a mutual lawyer
  
  With your family lawyer knowing both ends, it always helps the process when the times come for the division of assets. Hiring a personal lawyer will force the other spouse to do the same, which could have a negative effect on the idea of a peaceful divorce. Personal lawyers usually advise not to have any contact with your spouse during the divorce period, which will remove any minute mutual respect factor.
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  Dividing the assets
  
  The major stumbling block comes when the time comes to divide the assets. Having hired a divorce lawyer would indeed ensure that you get your due share, but you will be compromising on a peaceful separation. It is important that you convey your wishes by listing down the assets, and then ask your family attorney to help you out.   Give your spouse a similar option or simply allow him/her to take whatever he/she requires. You never know your spouse may also act responsibly and be willing to sort things out with you.
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  Putting the children first
  
  Divorce is tough on your children. It is common that you may forget what they are going through. However, it is also essential to protect their future. Custodial problems often arise during a divorce, but it is important that you make the decision on your own rather than force the court to do it for you.  Try different arrangements and see what works best for you.