How to Forgive Someone Who Has Hurt You
Forgiving someone is not easy, especially if you have been hurt by the other person badly. We often get hurt by a person, who is quite close to us. The reason is that we have a lot of expectations from him/her and even the smallest of things matter a lot.
Even though you might never forget the incident, it is better to move on in life rather than being stuck at one point. Imagine if you have been hurt by one of your best friends and you have not talked to him/her for quite some time. In your hurt, you would know that you cannot stay like that forever, so it is better to move forward.
Instructions
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Look for positives
Rather than looking at the negative points, try focussing on the good times you have spent with your friend. You will definitely start feeling a lot better and you will be in a position to be in a positive relationship once again. -
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Talk to your friend
It is important to talk to your friend about the entire situation. This is the only way of clearing the air otherwise things will continue getting worse with the passage of time. You have to allow him/her a chance of giving some explanation. -
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Understand the situation
Maybe your friend didn’t mean to hurt you at all, but you failed to understand the situation. Therefore, analyse what happened and then take necessary action. You should not end a relationship over a simple misunderstanding. -
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Accept the apology
If your friend has apologised to you, you should accept it and move on. You might not get this opportunity again and could end up losing a good friend forever. Therefore, respect the fact that the other person has realised his/her mistake. -
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No one is perfect
Everyone commits mistakes, as this is part of human nature. However, this doesn’t mean that we stop talking to others over small issues. Even you can hurt someone with your words or actions, so you should give a fair chance to others too. If you don’t forgive others, they will also treat you in a similar manner. -
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Mending relationships can be time consuming
Even if you have forgiven your friend for what he/she has done to you, it will take some time to normalise the relationship. Therefore, don’t be hasty at all and wait for the right time to be normal.